On Wednesday I broke Jeffrey's finger. It still makes me a physically ill to think about it. Before you judge me too harshly, I have to tell you that I didn't do it on purpose.
Wednesday was the girls' school open house, so Lindsay, Emma, and I spent the first part of the evening with the parent club passing out sodas for the PFC barbecue, then the second hour we explored current and possible future classrooms and about 7:00 we headed home. I walked in the door and made a beeline for the restroom (funny how passing out hundreds of sodas and water bottles can make you desperately need to pee). I knew Jeffrey and Noah were following me, but I thought I'd outpaced them--regardless, I checked the open door for tiny fingers before quickly pulling it closed. Unfortunately his fingers weren't in the open part of the door, they were in the hinge side of the door. Fast forward 2 seconds and Jeffrey lets out a bloodcurdling scream. Not just his "she got there before me and closed the door so I can't follow her into the bathroom" scream. This was his "somebody is murdering me with a butter-knife" scream. I open the door and his left hand middle finger is spurting blood from a sizable cut across the pad of the finger, and the whole top of the finger is already turning purple. (AWFUL!!!!)
So, I called his doctor's urgent care line. But, I was holding Jeffrey and he was still screaming and I was falling apart and less coherent than I would like to be. I could barely hear the nurse on the line (and she made it pretty obvious that she thought I was a complete ninny). Anyway, she ended up advising us to just go to the ER, which thankfully we did. Jeffrey and I both sobbed the whole way to the hospital and when we got there they took pity on me and got him in for x-rays very quickly. Turns out he had a very, very small break in the tip of the finger, and the cut was shallow enough that they didn't have to do stitches. So, we went home with nothing but a gauze bandage on the finger. Evidently they don't cast fingertips (I wish they would, I would feel so much better if his whole hand was immobilized and wrapped up in medical paraphernalia. :-) And they say he will probably lose the fingernail, but it will grow back, and there shouldn't be any lasting damage. (Thank heavens . . . bad enough to have hurt him, how awful if I'd maimed him for life).
All through it Jeffrey was so sweet and tough. After about the first 15 minutes he didn't even cry or fuss at all (except when they were cleaning/bandaging his finger). In fact, he sat and played with his trains and charmed all the nurses and pointed out every single circle in the whole hospital. "ball" "ball" "ball" etc. My sweet, brave boy did so much better than his mom through the whole disaster that I'm a little ashamed of myself. But, I don't think I'll ever forget that horrible, sick feeling I get every time I see his poor mangled finger -- which I get to see often because the little stinker refuses to keep a bandage on it. So I have to re-bandage it a couple or three times a day.
Anyway, I guess the moral of this story is that kids are tougher than we think, they forgive very quickly, and check both sides of the door before you close it. *You can just BET I am*